Dear Dr. R.V. Shrink:
We are headed on a trip through the Maritime Provinces of Canada this summer and fall. We have met several other RVer's who are doing the same.
We have some friends that we enjoy doing things with on occasion, but we do not want to travel with them full time in a caravan fashion. We have dropped subtle hints that we plan to travel on our own, but they continue to plan a trip with us.
Would it be rude to tell them in no uncertain terms that we do not want to travel with them? We find it uncomfortable confronting this dilemma.
--Bound for Sorry in Sarasota
It would be rude not to make it clear to them. It sounds like it has already gone too far.
Most people would understand if you explained your feelings about not wanting to travel as a group. There are other ways to fashion such a trip where you may or may not meet up occasionally.
Traveling in a group often means making decisions as a committee as to when you are leaving, where you are stopping, when to eat etc... It can be wonderful if you have a group of people that want that travel style, but miserable if you don't.
Some people need a group to feel safe and comfortable. If your friends are that way you should make things clear to them so they can start looking for others that would not mind traveling with them.
If you cannot bring yourself to telling them, you will make yourself miserable and most likely ruin the trip for everyone involved.
You may also ruin the relationship you have now as occasional camping friends.
--Keep Smilin', Dr. R.V. Shrink