Wednesday, April 15, 2015

RV stop in the name of love before you "brake" my heart

Dear Dr. R.V. Shrink:
I love to stop at thrift shops and antique stores when we travel. The problem is my husband always has some reason not to stop. Usually it is because he doesn’t see adequate parking for our motorhome and tow car, too much traffic, or not enough time to look over the parking situation before we pull in.
I seldom drive so I can’t argue those facts. I am wondering if it is just my husband, or do other RV drivers have the same problem parking spontaneously when they see a place they would like to stop along the way.
I don’t want to miss half of America just because of parking restrictions for our size. This has caused several arguments already. Please give me some advice.
--Denied Access in Arizona

Dear Denied:
There are some trade-offs for having a large, luxurious home on wheels. Many stores, attractions and even fuel stops have limited space for parking or pull-throughs. Depending on your size, spontaneity can often go out the window. You do not want to be indecisive when making a turn into an area you are not familiar with. If you are not sure what you are doing, you can be sure the traffic behind you has no clue.

In your case, my suggestion would be to look for the nearest suitable parking area you can find, drop your tow vehicle from the Mother Ship, and go back to businesses that look too tight to maneuver into blindly.

Many people learn this lesson the hard way. I, like many people, would be guilty as charged. I can recall several times having to unhook the toad and work my way out of a tight situation.

I once had a guy in the Florida Keys yelling at me. He was upset because he had just lost a bet. He had bet his friend fifty dollars that I would never get turned around and out of the parking lot.

Those pulling a 5th wheel or trailer do not have the luxury of unhooking. You can’t always plan ahead. I understand that many interesting stops just appear unannounced. That is one of the great things about RV travel. That said, you still need to be realistic as to your capabilities, skills, options and nerves, when making a split-second decision to sail into uncharted waters.

My wife and I just watched a couple completely destroy a brand new fifth-wheel. They pulled into a narrow, state park campground loop. Instead of stopping and assessing the situation, they panicked. Before we could get to them they tore up both sides of the rig, ripped the ladder off, and dented the storage doors under the front hitch.

You might want to drive more often. It will give you a fresh perspective on how your husband is thinking. It will also give you some confidence and skills you might one day need if something were to happen to him.
--Keep Smilin’, Dr. R.V. Shrink

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

RV work in progress

Dear R.V. Shrink:
We are now living full-time in our motorhome. To convince me this was a good idea my husband argued that we would not have all the house maintenance chores that used to eat up so much of our time. As it turns out, he is still constantly working on our motorhome and tow car. He has just become a slave to a new possession. I'm not sure if we own the motorhome or it owns us.

There always seems to be something he has to tighten up, button down, add, drain or clean. Is this normal? I sometimes think he is obsessed with working on our new home on wheels.
--Worn out from watching in Wenatchee

Dear Wenatchee:
It's called precautionary maintenance. It is a necessary evil whether you own a home, a boat, or an RV. Part of the problem with full-time RV living is not having a convenient place to work on some projects that need to be done. Most parks do not allow mechanical work to be performed on site. Many won't even allow you to wash your rig.

Keeping things lubed, cleaned, tightened and in good working order, will save you time and money in the long run. Everyone has a different skill level when it comes to keeping their RV in tiptop shape. But regardless, these things have to be done sooner or later.

It sounds to me like your husband is on top of things. You should be grateful he is so diligent about it. We have a home base. We make a pit stop once a year and do all the major maintenance that is harder to do on the road with fewer tools and less opportunity to find an allowable space to work on projects. Most precautionary maintenance chores take little time if you stay on top of them.

Your husband probably enjoys this work and has some pride in ownership. Those are great traits.
--Keep Smilin', Dr. R.V. Shrink

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

RV toxic cloud

Dear Dr. R.V. Shrink:
We just started RVing this winter. We are in our fourth month. RV life is now shifting from the imagined to the realistic state. It is not as placid as I had imagined, but still very enjoyable.

We are still learning about where we like to explore, the need for reservations in some areas, what types of parks we like, and the days we like to move or sit. Everything is falling into place and we are beginning to feel like we are now part of the lifestyle and not still in boot camp.

I have to say, one of my first real shocks was a situation you brushed on a couple weeks ago. We were sitting out under our awning having breakfast. It was a beautiful warm morning. The birds were singing, sun was rising, and you could almost hear the flowers growing. Just through the palmetto hedge we could see the neighbor packing up for departure. All of a sudden our tranquil morning turned into a nightmare of stink. Even knowing we were sitting there, the guy dumped his sewer without so much as a by-your-leave.

I almost gagged before I got inside our rig. I know dealing with waste holding tanks is a necessity, but isn't there some code of conduct that should go along with the procedure?
--Smelly Nelly in Naples

Dear Nelly:
I would agree that if the person saw you sitting out and did not give you some warning, that was rude. I believe you will find this is a rare case the more you travel. There is no question you will end up dealing with individuals with all kinds of idiosyncrasies. The RV lifestyle is no different than life in general. You will run into those people that just don't think their blackwater stinks.

They say, "Timing is everything." I think you will find that most people will be a bit more stealth when they dump their tanks in close quarters.

Let's give this person the benefit of the doubt and assume he is newer at this than you are. Perhaps he didn't realize he was going to release a toxic cloud of stink into your site.

Continue to enjoy your travels. I can guarantee you will find nine friendly and courteous camping site neighbors for every annoying one you encounter.
--Keep Smilin', Dr. R.V. Shrink