Dear RV Shrink:
Like most couples, my wife and I have occasional disagreements. At
home we can go to different parts of the house to calm down, but it's
more difficult in our trailer. When we get into a
heated argument, she storms off to the bathroom and stays there for
an hour or so. She has a little electronic game in there and plays
draw poker. I can hear it beeping, which drives me nuts. On a nice
day, I just leave the RV and take a walk, but in the winter when it's
cold or rainy I have nowhere to go. Do you think this is a good way
for her to let off steam? Am I overreacting?
--Jim in Buffalo, New York
I guess it depends on the size of your rig. If you travel with a Casita there could be a problem trying to take a time out in your separate corners. In a bigger rig it could be convenient. Everyone needs a little time alone. I’m a long distance backpacker. My wife said to me last year, “There are things I love about you that you never do anymore.” I said, “Like what?” She said, “Like being gone.” Living long term in a small space can challenge the best of relationships. Having your own space can be a bonus many people do not think of when deciding on rig size. Having separate interests can be a good thing. Arguments are nothing uncommon. Everyone handles them differently. If this is your spouse's way of cooling off, get a pair of earphones or plugs and wait it out. A twenty-five pound backpack works pretty well too.
--Keep Smilin', Dr. R.V. Shrink